Why Do Men Find “Taken” Women So Attractive?
October 18th, 2008
Why is it that it is so hard for a girl to get a really good guy when she’s single, yet when she finally finds the right one and finally gets ready to settle down into a “committed” relationship all the men in the world come riding in on tidal waves?
Why weren’t they there to choose from at the beginning?
And why do men find “taken” women so attractive?
-Confused
Dear Confused,
First of all, it’s not hard for a girl to get a really good guy when she’s single — it’s just hard for a girl to get a really good guy. Period.
Those guys who are showing up now? They’re not really good guys. Especially if they’re riding in on tidal waves. God is clearly trying to flood them off the face of the Earth. (He has a history of that, you know.)
Why do men find “taken” women so attractive? At the risk of having my Guy Card revoked, I’m going to tell you: they find you attractive because they don’t have to deal with you all the time.
If you’re in a relationship, you’ll be spending most of your free time with your boyfriend/fiance/husband. You won’t be calling the guy all the time “just to say hi”, you won’t be dragging him to chick flicks, and you won’t be asking him to meet your parents. He won’t be expected to buy you anything expensive, because your boyfriend/fiance/husband would find it and get suspicious.
The most the guy would expect, provided he can talk his way into it, is an occasional no-questions-asked sexcapade in an office or a motel or a 1984 Chevy Caprice.
Which is exactly what the guy wants. Keep in mind that, as I said before, these are not really good guys.
I take it that, if you are ready to settle down, you’ve found yourself a really good guy. And apparently you weren’t in a committed relationship when you found him. So things do work out sometimes, don’t they?
Good luck to you in your relationship,
Jesus
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